Wednesday, May 22, 2013

babies are always cuter, right?

I've changed um, a LOT since living in this house.  I've made peace with spiders. I had a Facebook post last year where I asked for help identifying this bugger...



It turns out he's an Orb Weaver, a very genteel spider (so true), who doesn't bug anyone (haha) and minds his own business, stays outside, does his spider thing, and lives peacefully in the world. Even though spiders have always given me the heebie jeebies, I've come to respect them and not fear them. It's been a 180-degree attitude shift from my pre-homeowner life.

So. These bad boys are really abundant in the late summer... August or so? That picture above was taken in September. Anyway, on Sunday Shane called me outside to show me something "cool," and this is what we saw....


What is it? Orb spiderlings. All clung together in a tight little ball. The slightest disturbance scatters them. It was reeeeeally cool.



We did some googling and discovered they're only around for a few days... in fact this morning almost all of them are gone. We had 3-4 clusters of them in various spots around our house, so I've been checking on them for the last few days.


In fact, the big guy at the top of the blog post was probably the momma of these little babies. How sweet is that? I think I had read that as the summer goes on their abdomens get bigger and bigger and bigger... then in early fall they lay all their eggs and ride off into the spider sunset. I guess the eggs hang out all year and finally hatch now, mid-April. I guess by July or August we should have another resident in the same spot as last year's momma. 

(Side note: there are currently all over the yard another breed of spider, little black guys that are FAST. I couldn't get a good enough picture of them, and I really don't know what they are. They've been EVERYWHERE in the last few weeks and are starting to disappear. I like them less because they do quite a bit of scurrying, but I haven't killed any and I just stay clear.)


I hate to say it, but pre-spider-tolerater Angela woulda probably taken the chance to um "mitigate" future spider risk by "neutralizing" the babies. So sad. These little guys are so very cool and I'm proud of myself that I embraced this part of nature.


I said to Shane that I thought it interesting we didn't notice the babies last year. I assumed that we were too busy and just missed it (I mean, they were only here for 5 days), but Shane also said that maybe the last owner wasn't as "friendly" to the Orb weavers as we were and so we had no babies. What a thought!


Spider babies in my yard. Awesome.  

Monday, May 13, 2013

20 and 100

It's officially May, and I thought maybe I'd fill you in on another BIG thing that I have been doing this year. It affects me every day, it fills my thoughts, it directs my actions... for better or worse...

I'm actively trying to lose weight. I'm working really hard. And it's working!

Since January 1, I'm down 20 pounds. TWENTY!! WOW!! I feel awesome!

So what are my secrets? Haha...
  • I've been blogging lots of my journey on another blog, movinmommas.blogspot.com, and really it's good to be accountable. Since January 1 was a Tuesday, weigh-in day is always a Tuesday. I drug my feet for what seemed like months about posting actual weight numbers, but seriously doing it once and for all finally gave me the kick in the pants I needed. When the world knows your number, you gotta make it better. 
  • I joined in a local Biggest Loser competition. More on that in later. But WOW it's another great way to be accountable!
  • My biggest tool for success has been MyFitnessPal. I log in every day. I don't even think about it anymore. It tracks what you eat, and has a HUGE database of foods. You can input recipes and find out how much a serving is (which is helpful, since we eat a lot at home). It's awesome. It really teaches you what nutritional value/caloric value food actually has. I've become much more food savvy. A Cadbury egg is 150 calories (only!!), a cheese stick is 70 calories, a banana is 100 calories, celery is like 4 calories. Less is best for peanut butter and regular butter. I have it on my computer, my phone, the iPad. It's awesome and so accessible. 

Some happy thoughts so far in this journey:
  • I am on track to lose ~5 lbs per month. I think this gradual weight loss is a good thing.
  • The only time I've been able to achieve this kind of weight loss is by doing crazy things like not eating carbs or sugar. I eat carbs AND sugar, I also try to eat a lot more vegetables and fruits. I'm balancing! I feel like I'm doing it RIGHT!
  • I don't like to eat at all after 6 PM, definitely not 7 or 8 PM. 
  • I'm exercising a lot. At least 4 times a week, usually 5, sometimes 6. I do fitness videos, I jump on our elliptical machine, I run outside. I am training for a half-marathon (INSANITY!!) and I'm up to 6 miles. SIX MILES. That is like, an hour of running straight. When I get into these long runs I always feel like I have no business doing this, I am such a faker, I don't belong.... but I keep at it and then all of a sudden the run doesn't seem so bad. If it hurt the first time I want to try it again and again until it doesn't hurt any more. 
  • I read Bob Harper's "Skinny Rules" and now I'm reading Jillian Michaels "Slim for Life." I'm learning some things. One of Bob's rules I always follow is to drink a HUGE glass of water before eating anything. It does make a big difference. Jillian explained BMR and AMR (various metabolic rates), and I learned my body needs 1900 calories to just exist as it is now and not gain or lose. So baby I'm eating 1300 and good things are happening.
  • When I first started MFP I tried for 1200 calories and I was really discouraged. It was hard. I saw my doctor and said I wanted to lose weight but I wasn't seeing success and I was stressed out, and she suggested I try 1400 and see how that felt. I did, and it WORKED, and I realized I COULD do this. Awesome. Eventually I went to 1300 and I feel great. 
  • I eat when I'm stressed or bored. Period. I still act this way. But at least I realize my downfall and I can work to prevent it. It's been interesting to be "tempted" and say to myself, "no. not this time." I'm so used to giving in to allllll of my temptations. So yes, there is chocolate in the house (not ice cream, not right now). But I don't give in every time my little brain begs for it.
  • I have a lot more energy. I feel lighter when I go up the stairs. I feel stronger. I can crawl around on the floor with the kids. 
  • I've essentially doubled my wardrobe since a lot of clothes that didn't fit (but that I've held on to since forever) now totally fit. All three of my summer shorts fit (not so much last summer). The only pants that don't fit are like, fancy jeans from college. They're my motivation now. I also tried on lots of shirts Saturday night as I was organizing my closet and realized many of them fit really well. Awesome. Which doesn't give me a lot of incentive to go shopping to reward myself for weigh loss, but I go shopping regardless :-)
  • When I started I made a rewards chart, so every 5 pounds I get something. So far I've had a pedicure, shopping spree, new pair of running shoes & entry fee for the half-marathon, and a new workout DVD. My final goal, in like, 40 more pounds, is a trip to LAS VEGAS. Seriously. If I lose 40 more pounds I'll do it. 
  • I've hit pre-pregnancy Laurel weight!! I am 2 pounds away from pre-pregnancy Wesley weight. I'm finally where like, people remember me as being. Where I'm used to being. Well guess what, I want to be BETTER than people remember!!!!
OK here's the visual.... 
(last July)    (today)

There's about 15 pounds' difference between picture 1 and picture 2. Too bad the angles aren't perfectly matched.

My current goals:
  1. lose a Wesley (~15 more pounds).
  2. fit into my wedding dress (~10 more after that)
  3. see numbers on the scale I've never seen in my adult life (~10-15 more after that)
I think they are all attainable, actually. It's not going to be easy. But it's in the realm of possibility. I told myself in January that 2013 was MY YEAR. And I'm doing it.

OK, so the big bang from this weekend:  In January a friend on Facebook (our babies are the same age), posted on a mommy group we are both on that she wanted to start a Biggest Loser competition. Was anyone interested? I was probably the first one who said, "yes! me!" I was already actively trying in January. There was a $10 buy-in and weekly weigh-ins by phone, email, or text. She created a new Facebook group and posted results every Tuesday from the Monday weigh-ins. Winner would take $100, second place $40, and third place $20. Twelve weeks.

I was really consistent from week 1. I lost every week except the Monday after Easter where I gained a pound or something. I was never in first place, but I started in 7th, moved up to like 4th, and then I sat at 2nd for awhile.

Finally, the last week came. I had a number in my head, and I said to myself, "If I can get that number on the scale, it'll be the best I can do. I know that. I can't expect any more out of me." Well, I got it. I got that number. I felt awesome, and I knew it was my best, and I sent it in. Final weigh-in was by video, which was funny but proves you're not weighing your skinnier husband or something. (One gal put her teenage son on the scale and submitted it as her April Fool's joke, haha!)

Well, the big finale party was on Saturday. Since we were all done weighing in people brought cookies and chocolate mousse (whaaaat?). I brought apple slices with peanut butter ;-)

My total weight loss for the 12 weeks, February thru May, was ~16 lbs, or 8.41% of my body weight. And guess what? I WON!!! I WON $100! I won the competition! HOW COOL IS THAT!?!?!?!

I feel so awesome. Money or no money, I was so glad to have participated. The organizer of the event came in second (we verified her weight, plus she looks awesome), and she actually wants to do a second round starting in June. I already won my buy-in money back so I have no excuse not to throw $10 more at this :-) I don't know what I'll do with my $100. Maybe save it for my Vegas trip?

This has been a wonderful experience. I am so proud of how far I've come, but still anxious because I have more to go. My half-marathon is in October so I've got all summer to run my little heart out and continue to lose. I'm gonna to keep with the 1-2 lbs per week, since it's working. MFP is working. It just feels awesome. Maybe my life is a little out of balance since my house is kinda messy, but making time for exercise right now is what I really want to do.

You heard that right. This is what I really want to do. More than anything else. I wouldn't trade this feeling for anything.

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

i have a garden!

Part of me is excited. Part of me is terrified. Part of me is confident. Part of me is clueless. I have a lot of emotions around this. I guess we'll just see what happens.

We'll start from smallest to biggest....

1. The basil herb planter. Thank you Tupperware. Self-watering, it'll sit in my windowsill and smell glorious all summer and into the fall. I think I finally got rid of my last plant because it got too darn tall. I heart basil.



2. Topsy-turvy tomatoes. This will be my fourth year doing this. Year 1 - miserable failure. Four tomatoes total. Year 2 - incredible success. Boatloads of tomatoes all summer long. Year 3 - semi-miserable failure. We got tomatoes, and they tasted fabulous, but something was wrong with them. As soon as I'd pluck them from the plant, nice and red and juicy, they'd crack in my hands. So sad. Some of them would crack on the plant. It was like they were bursting with so much flavor they couldn't handle it. This year I on purpose did NOT buy the kind of tomato I got last year. So we'll see what happens. I wish I could remember what I bought year 2.

BlueDragonfly my awesome friend with a killer garden suggests a gardening journal! Most awesome idea.



3. Raspberry starts. Evidently these bad boys are invasive (yay) and should grow forever. Some woman on my Facebook mom group has like her whole side yard full of them, and they started to take over her planter so she invited people over to dig. I thought I did a terrible job, I thought I cut off the roots and they'd all die that afternoon in pots in my backyard. But no, two days later and they all look OK (I got like 6 of them). I emailed her for advice and she said even if they die, lay the dead stems sideways in the planter and they'll come up next year. Hearty little buggers. I don't expect a yield at all this year, but we're getting started. Final task here, we need a lattice or trellis behind so they'll grow up. ("Climbing vegetables" they are called. Technical term.)



4. Strawberries on the patio. I did strawberries in pots last summer and it was a miserable failure. The kind I had were ever-bearing strawberries and I hear those are generally no good. I got LOTS of berries... they were white... but before they could turn red they'd get big and I'd get excited and then they'd rot out in the middle. Weird. This year I bought a start of June-bearing berries, and I plan to transplant some more from BlueDragonfly's June-bearing patch.



(The teeny planters to the right there are two things Wesley brought home from preschool. They might be dead. A pumpkin and a crocus. Random preschool projects, I'm sure.)

5. Our fruit trees. Nothing has changed since last year. We had minimal success with the cherries, and GREAT AWESOME success with the plums. I hope things get better with the cherries and stay the same with the plums? Plus I've done more research and I know how to take care of the "land" better, I guess.

You can see our little cherries and one teeeeeeeny start to a plum. The plums don't ripen until August or something, I think. Cherries are earlier.



(teeeeeny plum right there, bottom left-ish)

6. My planter. Big news. Shane built me a planter. All the dirt came from a compost pile from some friends at Church. (Another friend of theirs, who was there when we were getting our dirt, said to watch out because random things will start growing from the compost. Like kale, tomatoes, tomatillos. Um, hilarious.)



The planter is about 4x4, but not quite. I bisected the thing with a "+" sign of butterfly weed, which may grow or not grow. I couldn't tell from the seeds. They are perennial but maybe they won't grow until next year?

In one corner are two zucchini starts and some lettuce. In another corner are garden beans and radishes. In another corner are green onions and carrots. In the final corner are snap peas and pea pods. Still to-do is make a lattice or trellis for the peas. I have three dowel rods and I kinda wanna make a tee-pee. I've got to get on that like ASAP. At least they're in the ground.

I put something on the Facebook mommy group about easy, confidence-building plants to grow and these were all recommended. I should make a note that I didn't really follow any of the directions on the seed packets. One of them, radishes I think, said that when I yield a harvest I have to replant to yield more. I should make note of this. But I hear some stuff grows forever, like herbs like oregano will grow in the winter even.



I'm excited, but I'm starting to get worried.... there are plenty of bugs and worms in the compost I got, but how do I know if bugs are good bugs and worms are good worms? I HAVE NO IDEA. I want to kill them all but am trying to resist. I'm worried about slugs... someone said to cover the edge of the planter box with copper flashing and that should do it. I'm worried about birds. I got a pinwheel for the middle of the planter.



(Talk about incompetent... here is what one of my Facebook friends from the TriCities posted on Saturday.... sigh:  "42 tomatoes, baby watermelon, slicing cucumbers, pickling cucumbers, spaghetti squash, Hutterite beans, 30 peppers (8 varieties), 3 kinds of basil, lemon thyme, lemon balm, sage, rosemary, chives, cilantro, tomatillos, cippolini onions, leeks, 3 kinds of storing onions, more lettuce, and butternut squash are ALL IN THE GROUND. Still need zucchini, yellow squash, and a handful of other random things to plant, but I'm nearly done. I cannot wait to eat out of the garden this summer!"  YEAH RIGHT. It's kind of funny how seriously I am taking myself compared to people like this.)

Basically, this is all a huge gamble. I should tally up how much money I've spent and see what actual "food" we get out of this. Plus, I'll have to water every day (I've been watering twice a day since Saturday since it's been hot -- yes you read that correctly, I said it's been hot in Seattle), and I wonder what that will do to our water bill. PLUS I'm sure there are countless hours ahead of weeding, reorganizing, tending, fretting, etc.

So many people say, "oh it's easy." But is it really easy? I guess I'm about to find out.

Sunday, May 5, 2013

gorgeous kids and tulips

Our annual trip to the tulips was Friday before last; we went with Molly and Arianne which was great fun. Gosh my kids are gorgeous and these tulips are GORGEOUS. I love this state. I love spring.

Here are some of our photos....I took like more than 50....


(funny face!)
  








 



(one of my favorites!)

(she likes to poke flowers, I think)



(cute sibling fun!)

   






  

 





(I looooove this one)




  


LOVE. True love.